- It's OK to be depressed. We know that receiving the news of your child's autism is a hard pill to swallow. Sadness, disappointment & grief are all natural & necessary emotions. However, make sure that you snap out of the depression as soon as possible. Your job is to help your child, remember that.
-Research, there are tons of resources online.
-Autism will change your life. But do not lose hope because solutions exist.
-The key is early intervention. Find a developmental pediatrician (if you haven't consulted one at this point) to get a formal diagnosis for your child.
-Research on possible therapies that can help your child.
-It helps to confide about your child's condition to your relatives and close friends. Believe it or not, we found it very therapeutic.
-Have a heart to heart talk with your spouse (and children) about your child's autism. Discuss all possible options with your family members.
-Research, read books about autism.
-Do not make impulsive decisions, think twice when in doubt.
-Don't stop living your life. Believe it or not, life goes on despite autism.
-Be optimistic.
-Research, know the latest treatments available to conquer autism.
-Find a support group, there are people out there with the same concerns. You are not alone in this battle.
-Accept your child's condition.
-Read the lovely poem "God's Whisper" written by one of my dearest friends in the world, Jeannie. It has helped me put things in the proper perspective (see below)
-Be proactive.
-Did we mention Research?
-When making major decisions, your child's welfare should be your top priority. Do not decide based on what is convenient for you. Decide based on what's best for your child.
- Laugh. Cry. It's good for you.
- Don't forget to have fun!
- Do not lose hope. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up...
-Join the Autism Pinoy online support group at http://www.autismpinoy.com/forums
-PRAY. It’s the most powerful intervention for your child.
God’s Whisper
~ A poem by Jeannie Castillo,
for her son -- Jamie ~
When you came, I heard God whisper,
“Take care of this little one.
He’s one of my special spirits
Accept him as your son.
He may need some extra attention
Some added patience and some time
But he’ll grow into a beautiful person
With your love, he’ll be just fine.
You’ll see that he will surprise you
He’ll amaze you with his soul
He’ll bring you joy and endless wonder
In his way, he’ll make you whole.
For every smile will be a miracle
Each new step, a victory
His growth will be blessed and meaningful
His life is a gift from Me.
This angel is your reminder
Of what is pure and what is true
It’s not what the world says that matters
What matters is all up to you.
You are the one who will teach him
That he is perfect in My eyes
With Me, he can move mountains
He can do anything, he need only try.
For this child has a magnificent spirit
He was meant to do wonderful things
His life has a special mission
I will raise him on eagle’s wings
To soar high and live life fully
To sing and laugh and love
So you must raise him with warmth and tenderness,
With Me, you’ll have enough.
Now always remember this message,
Be brave and strong and true
Know that I am with you
Remember that I chose you.
I chose you for this mission.
This is your gift to Me.
Take care of him well and let him be loved,
For when you love him . . . you love Me.”
~~~
November 2001
© R.H. Castillo